My wife is a gun hater and I'm sick of it.

[Indecision]

Originally Posted by WheelGloryDame

Seriously, devote your time and energy to learning about her, and loving her, and she will respond with respect and appreciation for you and your interests.

Yeah! Suck up to her so you can spend your hard earned money on something you want!

[Lee Ermey as Sgt. Hartman]

Do what I do when something is broken: get a new one.

[femurphy77]

Not so much a solution for your stated problem but you said there were other issues in this relationship. Lifes too short!! My own personal experience tells me I pretty much hosed 23 years of my life "trying to make it work", that includes couseling etc. Your sanity is worth a hell of a lot more than you think! Take this for what it is, my two cents! Good luck.

[jespol227]

Hey- before my overall message I'll tell you about myself and my own feelings about guns (before and after!).

Before: I generally was very nervous around guns, had no desire to own one, and was NOT going to have one in my home!

My fiance eventually began talking more and more about owning a handgun (neither he nor I had ever shot a gun).

Eventually, I simply told him that if he wanted a gun in our home, I wanted to know everything about the gun: how to shoot it, the safety features, how to load/unload, safety precautions etc. I wanted to know EVERYTHING so I'd feel comfortable.

My guy being the wonderful man he is (gotta give him his props!) offered to pay for he and I to take a basic pistol class (shooting and home safety).
We took the NRA class and....

AFTER: Guess what- I LOVE SHOOTING!

I now own a Springfield XD Subcompact 9mm, and am looking to buy a .22 Buckmark....

So- my opinion is that if you can get your girl into an NRA Class (both of you go together!) for basic shooting and SAFETY, this may help ease her discomfort about having a gun in the home.

A good gun safe/cabinet and good safety features on the gun would be helpful too.

Just some thoughts from a girl's perspective I guess I feel like knowledge helps to reduce some anxiety...

Hope this helps! Good luck!
Jessi

[jespol227]

Originally Posted by Indy_Guy_77

How about take the pistol money and get some marriage counseling?

It's much more precious than the pistol.

-J-

Thank goodness someone else said what I was thinking!

[Annie]

Originally Posted by jespol227

I LOVE SHOOTING!

And she's good at it, too!

[Eddie]

Is the money coming out of a family acct. or your own money? When I started prepping back in the 80's I tried to save a dollar a day out of money set aside to buy my lunches at work. I tried to just eat a little less and stick the spare dollars in a jar on the dresser. Now, my wife isn't a gun hater, but she is a tightwad. Since she saw me visibly saving up money out of funds that would otherwise go in my stomache, it took away any reason that she had to compain about how much I spent.

[Sailor]

Explain that somebody has to be in charge of the safety and security of the family. The other spouse cedes to the expertise of the person in charge of that.

I am the expert in computer and all things tech. What I say goes. My spouse is the expert at running this house efficiently. What she says goes.

Someone needs to step up and be the person in charge of saftey and security.

[Broom_jm]

You say your wife "hates" guns, which I take to mean she is terrified of them and thinks they are very dangerous. The only cure for any of the above, is knowledge. I have never met a person who was informed and experienced with guns that had a strong dislike for firearms. Fear and hatred can be overcome with education...this is true of all things, not just things that go boom.

[Big 30]

Wife don't like firearms huh???

Play these for her>>>

YouTube - Luby 's survivor Suzanna Hupp

Explain in simple terms that someday firearms may save her and or someone else's life.

All the best...