My wife is a gun hater and I'm sick of it.

[MACHINEGUN]

I use to have the same exact problem.. I kicked her to the curb.. problem solved.

[Ol'Bluesmoke]

Wow...thank you for all responses..even the idea about having a guy come over to pretend to break in (there is no way I would ever do that) but I think the author of that possible solution was trying to be helpful.

We have moved 4 times and to three different states in the last 3 years and now she is attending law school so we all have been under a great deal of pressure. We tried counseling but we are just different people and try to agree to disagree. The thing that would break my heart is breaking up and the effect it would have on my beautiful three year old daughter. However, I also know that having an unhappy couple is not good for a young child too.

I tried (for years) to interest her in firearms and their role not only as protection but also as one of the loves in my life...I have been shooting since I was a young kid starting with BB guns and finallly getting my first handgun shortly after turning 21...well that was almost 19 years ago and not having shooting as an outlet has been really tough for the last 3 years. She worries about money and so do I, but we have a little extra for me to buy this "budget" Ruger and I think I might just not talk about it anymore with her and just get the gun...believe me we have talked and talked and it seems to turn into a fight every time.

[techres]

Originally Posted by Ol'Bluesmoke

...The thing that would break my heart is breaking up and the effect it would have on my beautiful three year old daughter.

Woah there bucko, that changes everything. We talk about being willing to die or kill for our kids here and we generally mean it. The same goes for doing anything it takes to make the marriage work, anything, just for your daughter.

However, I also know that having an unhappy couple is not good for a young child too....

Statistics do not bear this out. Having a difficult marriage puts that girl in a better place than a divorce hands down. Yeah, sucks now, but guess how bad it will be when some other guy, a far, far worse guy is raising your kid for you, and putting her future out of your hands.

And as for having guns? Divorce/Separation is the fastest way to having no guns at all thanks to Lautenberg. Guaranteed.

Keep your eyes on the prize, make it 15 more years, and save your kid.

Sure, there may be a day you need a gun, but without question every day your daughter needs you!

Hang tight, please, for her.

[Indecision]

Originally Posted by techres

Statistics do not bear this out. Having a difficult marriage puts that girl in a better place than a divorce hands down. Yeah, sucks now, but guess how bad it will be when some other guy, a far, far worse guy is raising your kid for you, and putting her future out of your hands.

And as for having guns? Divorce/Separation is the fastest way to having no guns at all thanks to Lautenberg. Guaranteed.

Keep your eyes on the prize, make it 15 more years, and save your kid.

Sure, there may be a day you need a gun, but without question every day your daughter needs you!

Hang tight, please, for her.

I disagree with this 100%, my parents divorced when I was about 15... probably 10 years too late if you ask me. I'm not going into details, but I honestly believe it would've been better if they had done it a LOT earlier.

[techres]

Originally Posted by Indecision

I disagree with this 100%, my parents divorced when I was about 15... probably 10 years too late if you ask me. I'm not going into details, but I honestly believe it would've been better if they had done it a LOT earlier.

My family went through two. One when we were young and one in the teens. They had two different effects. The one when I was young destroyed my sister at the age of 5 and her life never really recovered. As for the one when we were teens, yeah, you could argue it was a few years overdue, but seriously that was very, very different than when we were not even in school yet.

And the stats I have read over and over bear this out.

OP, work for the marriage like a gun fight. Say in the fight, do whatever you have to do, and do not take the temptation to lay down and give up. And whatever you do, do not let a gun come between you and being the day to day father of your daughter.

Trust me, the next guy is gonna be far, far worse than you and you will have no ability to stop whatever damage he inflicts. NO gun is worth that.

[Indecision]

Originally Posted by techres

My family went through two. One when we were young and one in the teens. They had two different effects. The one when I was young destroyed my sister at the age of 5 and her life never really recovered. As for the one when we were teens, yeah, you could argue it was a few years overdue, but seriously that was very, very different than when we were not even in school yet.

And the stats I have read over and over bear this out.

OP, work for the marriage like a gun fight. Say in the fight, do whatever you have to do, and do not take the temptation to lay down and give up. And whatever you do, do not let a gun come between you and being the day to day father of your daughter.

Trust me, the next guy is gonna be far, far worse than you and you will have no ability to stop whatever damage he inflicts. NO gun is worth that.

Just another reason to add to my extensive list of reasons why to never have children.

[ihateiraq]

i just want to float it out there that i was joking about the break in.

[kludge]

Originally Posted by Ol'Bluesmoke

I tried (for years) to interest her in firearms and their role not only as protection but also as one of the loves in my life...

Ain't gonna happen.

I've been happily married for 13+ years and no matter what happens, my wife is never going to be a "gun girl" or a Jeep chick".

My wife is fully pro-2A and RKBA, and is glad that I have a gun and asks me when we head out if I have it on me, she's just not very interested in shooting or carrying herself... at times she says she wants to, and that she should have this or that, but it's not a priority.

I have been shooting since I was a young kid starting with BB guns and finallly getting my first handgun shortly after turning 21...well that was almost 19 years ago and not having shooting as an outlet has been really tough for the last 3 years. She worries about money and so do I, but we have a little extra for me to buy this "budget" Ruger and I think I might just not talk about it anymore with her and just get the gun...believe me we have talked and talked and it seems to turn into a fight every time.

Time to take a budgeting class together.

If the two of you don't budget together and don't budget any "this is my money and you can't tell me what I can and can't do with it" then there will always be money problems/fights.