The cops got called tonight. Parents where gone so she called her friend over the mom and my wife where a few houses down and watch them walk into the house and mom called 911. So at least in the short term the problem is solved.
But they need to fix the daughters problems now before it gets worse.
Don't loan him a gun. I understand that you care about him and want to help him protect his family, and I respect the hell out your willingness to lend your arms to that end.
But...
Having an armed household is a family commitment. This is a commitment that they have not yet been willing to make. By loaning him a firearm, you interrupt some necessary growth that needs to occur within that household.
He needs to grow and understand that "kids in the house" is a cop out. He needs to take his wife to task on this and make her understand that her irrational fear causes him to have to approach every situation with a child's toy in his hand... which is a real danger, unlike her imaginary dangers of firearm ownership.
Slipping him a firearm means that some very serious discussions never occur. An open, active, mutual commitment to the family's safety never takes place. Then, when an accident happens with a gun that nobody knew about, guess who's the bad guy. (*you)
Or when the 18yr old comes in to the house with the daughter while they're at work. The daughter basically shows him the unsecured/poorly secured "secret" gun and it ends up on Indy's eastside, and you get to see it on local news being waved in the face of a VP clerk.
Again, I respect your selflessness, but if you want to make his home safe, encourage him to truly protect what is his... to stand up, discuss it, buy it, train with it, protect with it, and have them both agree on all of it.
His wife likes the idea but he still isn't willing to get one.
The issue here is at 3am you hear loud bangs out side your house is it fire works or gun shots? In this case fire works but what if it was gun shots in your neighbors house? Are them coming here next or what?
Don't loan him a gun. I understand that you care about him and want to help him protect his family, and I respect the hell out your willingness to lend your arms to that end.
But...
Having an armed household is a family commitment. This is a commitment that they have not yet been willing to make. By loaning him a firearm, you interrupt some necessary growth that needs to occur within that household.
He needs to grow and understand that "kids in the house" is a cop out. He needs to take his wife to task on this and make her understand that her irrational fear causes him to have to approach every situation with a child's toy in his hand... which is a real danger, unlike her imaginary dangers of firearm ownership.
Slipping him a firearm means that some very serious discussions never occur. An open, active, mutual commitment to the family's safety never takes place. Then, when an accident happens with a gun that nobody knew about, guess who's the bad guy. (*you)
Or when the 18yr old comes in to the house with the daughter while they're at work. The daughter basically shows him the unsecured/poorly secured "secret" gun and it ends up on Indy's eastside, and you get to see it on local news being waved in the face of a VP clerk.
Again, I respect your selflessness, but if you want to make his home safe, encourage him to truly protect what is his... to stand up, discuss it, buy it, train with it, protect with it, and have them both agree on all of it.
If you do it anyway make sure i gun is NOT tied (traceable) to you.