Take the barrel out of the pistol and drop the suspect rounds into the chamber. If they go in too deep or not deep enough, there is your problem. With the ammo being hard to find, there is LOTS of marginal reloads on the market. A Wilson or other quality ammo gauge is a good thing to use also.
At the range, we ran 10's of thousands of rounds of S&B ammo through rental guns, and much of the pistols were XDS models. Never a problem, even though the primers are hard. Of course those rounds were manufactured within spec.
A very common cause for "light strikes" is the primers not being seated fully. The energy of the firing pin seats the primer, then the second time (or third) they go bang.
Check your primers on your ammo, they should be below flush, ~0.005" below flush. If they are flush or high, there's your problem.
Took the gun home and cleaned it again, but this time took the firing pin out and low and behold it was filled with all the factory crud.